“Losing weight is easy,” said no one ever.
We’re exactly 12 weeks after the beginning of 2019 and those universal new year’s resolutions of eating clean, get fit and exercise more as well as shedding that buddha belly are already gone. Well, at least for 80% of americans, they are. And most people also know that it takes 12 weeks to form a habit. So what is going on? Why do we all fail to stick to our resolutions? Well, first of all I will elaborate later this year on that, but I am now pretty sure that starting to change your life and habits on January first is potentially the worst time of the year to do it. And second, I am seeing at least 5 reasons why most fail. Here they are, and if you have an opinion on this please feel free to leave your comments, I am really interested in knowing about it!
1. Changes are very slow!
Usually people don’t gain weight overnight, and most (depending on your age) won’t lose it overnight either. The rule of thumb is 2 pounds per week, and that’s with a clean eating diet and exercise. Here’s the rule of thumb: it takes six weeks to see results yourself, 8 weeks for your friends to see it and 12 weeks for the rest of the world ….
2. Over the top goals
“I want to lose 50 lbs in 3 months and gain 10 lbs of muscle”. Yeah right. Like I said it’s 2 lbs a week with a clean diet and for muscle gain this takes years of hard work + adequate nutrition and supplements, not months. aka big lifestyle change …. That said it’s true that the more you have to lose the easier it gets - at first. If you have to lose 50, the first 25 will probably go pretty fast, whereas someone with only 25 to lose will have to work hard for it! (and yes, trust me, this goes drastically more hard to do as you get older!) Instead, set short-term goals. “I want to lose five pounds this month.” Not only is this physically more achievable, but it does not seem nearly as overwhelming.
3. If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail
Especially when it comes to nutrition. If you don’t have your meals prepped ahead of time on a weekly basis, you’re going to find any reason to continue to eat the same junk you now feel on your belly, legs, and everywhere else. Also having your workout and menu rituals (I will also talk about this later on) will take out the usual guesswork of “what am I going to eat today?” which most of the time evolves into “oh maybe I can skip the gym today” which automatically goes into self loathing mode and further failure.
4. Not having support
Support doesn’t mean that you’re going to tell all your friends that you’re going to eat rabbit food for the next 6 months and get to the gym 2 hours per day and they should make sure you stick to it. That type of support eventually will evolve into others judging you which in turn can get you again in self loathing mode if you think you’re not getting the results you either announced or wanted.
No, you will have to realize that this is a very lonely endeavor. Nobody is going to help you (nobody is after you just most won’t understand) and most importantly you’re going to have to rethink your entire social life - eating out, alcohol etc will become no-no’s for you - either for quite sometime or forever. It will take enormous amounts of social courage and focus to say “no” to almost everything that your coworkers and friends view as “social” and “fun” … So be prepared for extreme loneliness — at least until you figure out a way that works for you and doesn’t destroy all your efforts.
5. Aaaaaand the most important: you’ll have to find a workout and nutrition system that fits your lifestyle (and not the way around)
A simple example: if you love chicken, don’t go vegetarian. If you work late don’t go to the gym after work, because (trust me on this) by the end of the day you’ll find all the perfect reasons in the world to skip your training. If you hate running, do the stairs and elliptical. If you hate the weight room because “all the dudes are twice my size” then go to the strength training machines area of the gym.
There is no one-size-fits-all clean-eating and exercise program, and it’s important to remember that that is ok! However a few rules of thumb — gym first thing in the morning, food steamed veggies, boiled chicken and eggs, milk and fruits always work. But no binging in between! And most importantly — no alcohol. If you drink then you’re not serious about your training. The secret (if there is one) to maintaining a healthy lifestyle is to find one that works for you. The one you can commit to. The one you will actually do!
@philippemora > I come from the future. I work and I workout. Always be kind and passionate.