The literature is littered with self help advice about highly successful individuals and celebrities and how they benefited greatly from their own self confidence. While I believe the correlation between success and skill can be debatable (most have been only lucky once, it’s repeatedly being lucky that gets my attention), I want to talk about the will to get up again and again when you fail or experience a setback while in pursuit of creating the life that works for you.
Success is hard work and a lot of luck. Enormous success is even more hard work and an enormous amount of luck.
I think however that in addition to being able to pursue exposure to serendipity and simply being lucky, there is a direct link between your achievements and believing in yourself and your abilities. So going back to those celebrities and other high achiever billionaire talking heads you see on tv, they were only able to to keep going and achieve success because of the level of belief in themselves despite the enormous amount of failures they had experienced for years leading up to their big breakthroughs. Their belief is what created a vision so big that they didn’t care how many times they failed at something. They were eventually going to get to where they wanted to go.
From getting in the best shape of your life to being an entrepreneur, you are most definitely going to fail and experience a huge setback at some point - if it hasn’t happened already, it will. And that’s okay, that’s just life. But when it does happen, and when your belief is strong, no failure will have the power to wipe you out: it is going to make you even stronger. You’re going to suck it up and belief in yourself will be key.
Here are a two daily rituals, small changes in outlook that can help change your world.
count your wins
Athletes know this: tracking your training, nutrition and achievements is a real helper when you’re going for the gold medal. And yes I know minimizing the negative self talk is easier said than done however instead of thinking about all your losses for the day. To do so I use my journal to track everything from my fitness sessions in the morning to my mood and even work stuff, but also every evening I enter in it my “gratitude logs” to capture all my wins at the end of each day. The key here is to capture all your wins and to write them down, big or small doesn’t matter, because this will bring you joy when you realize of all the incredible things you’ve achieved and remind you that you can make happen even bigger things in the future.
the superhero mindset
Talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself. You are not a victim.
Thinking positive and empowering thoughts are great, but reconditioning your thought process by not giving in to any negative and discouraging thoughts and making it a habit will completely revolutionize your life. See, if you don’t have any belief in yourself, how do you expect anyone to believe in you? And most importantly, work to self-identify as a person who can and will help others and behave like an “everyday hero” by taking action helping others when the opportunities present themselves.
My name's phil mora and I blog about the things I love: fitness, hacking work, tech and anything holistic.
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